'Get To': The gift of perspective

Published on Wednesday, 5 February 2014 23:57 - Written by Debbie Lee Townsend, Guest Columnist

Recently, a friend of mine was lamenting her decision to adopt two toddlers after having all but raised several children of her own.

It seems time induces amnesia with regard to how much work it is to chase after a small child, much less two.

After a week of changing diapers, wiping noses, nursing colds and so on, she was at her wits end and wondering what she was thinking when she committed to this new venture.

Then, she realized all she needed was an attitude shift; a change in perspective.

That is when she decided to adopt the words “get to” when thinking about the daily care of these two small souls who now lived with her family because they needed a loving home. At that moment, everything changed.

I couldn’t help but think about ways I could apply that to my life.

What would happen if every time I had a negative thought about something I don’t like to do I replaced it with a phrase containing “get to?”

I don’t like to go outside in frigid temperatures to walk the dog in the mornings, but because I do, I get to see beautiful sunrises.

Some people never get to see a sunrise.

It isn’t always convenient for me to rush home to take the dog to the bathroom, but because I do, I get to see gorgeous sunsets. Some people never get to see a sunset.

Sometimes, I look at my calendar and am overwhelmed with how full it is, but because it is, I get to see friends and family often.

Some people never get to see their family and have few, if any, close friends.

I don’t like having the pain and stiffness that come with my fibromyalgia, but because of it, I get to dance first thing every morning.

Some people never get to dance.

Sometimes it bothers me that I’m living on my parents’ property instead of having property of my own, but because I do, I get to see my parents every day.

Some people, particularly over 50, never get to see their parents.

To “get to do” something means to be given the ability or chance to do that thing.

What if we replaced “have to” and “need to” with “get to” in our daily lives?

What if we view every day as a gift of get to?

The gift of “get to” in me honors the gift of get to in you.

What will you do with it?


Debbie Lee Townsend is a Hawkins resident.